Single fathers and dating
Dan: Right; I wouldn’t just bring a date over to say hello.
I’d have to be going out with her for at least six months before I’d invite her to meet my kids — I just think it’s best that way.
Robert: Let’s not forget about the fact that when you’re dating a single mom, she understands what the dynamic is about.
For example, she may be dealing with the same issues as you are — like custody or trying to organize schedules — and she’s likely to be more empathetic.
On the other hand, it’s harder to get together with a single mom because you both have households to run, and it’s often hard to find time in your schedules that works for both of you.Mark: I used to introduce my kids to my dates but now I wait a little longer because my kids are at an age where they bond really quickly to people.I also think it’s not a good thing to keep bringing people in and out of their lives.Mark Kasserman, 47, video producer; San Rafael, CA.Divorced for 11 years; has two sons, ages 11 and 13. Divorced three years ago; has four children, ages 16, 14, 12 and 9.
She gets the fact that sometimes you really do need to cancel something at the last minute because something really did come up with your child — and you understand that the same thing can and does happen on her end.