I am dating a guy who has a girlfriend
You can sure tell yourself: “But he is not available” or “I can do better than this”. And trust me, a lot of people are not that attractive anymore once you get to know them. 2) And there is a slight chance, you shouldn’t count on this though, that he really values you as a person and a friend, and at some point if he decides to end his relationship with the other girl, I don’t see any reason why you are not his first choice at that point. Because every other approach will let you lose one, and maybe two!
But it drives you crazy that both of you may have feelings toward each other but cannot be together. (badmouth his girlfriend, behave inappropriately, etc) Chances are he knows about this already, if he’s not stupid.
– Confused Maybe they'll break up and he'll confess that he has feelings for you. even then, it could take him a ton of time to process the loss of a six-year relationship. As a single 25-year-old who ready to date, you need other prospects.
You can’t sit at home, sipping your fancy gluten-free beverage, hoping this guy shows up ready to be the love of your life.
And while we’re on the subject of my dating issues, why am I so drawn to men with girlfriends even before I know they have girlfriends?
The fact is, and I feel you, this can be devastating. But you might want to run through the following exercise to make yourself feel better and to understand what you should do your next step.
Then ask yourself, what will happen if you really cross the line.
We get along really well and I am very much attracted to him. They've been together for six years and began dating their freshman year of college.
Friends often joke about how we are so similar or would be "perfect together." There is one thing that is wrong with this situation, and that is that he has a girlfriend. They are now doing long-distance and rarely see each other. We often go out with our friends, who are a couple, and it almost feels as if we are double dating. I am gluten free and just last week, he made me a gluten-free drink (it was a complicated drink, but I don't want to give away too many details about the nice gesture).
He often seems frustrated by their situation because she wants him to move there, and he wants to stay here. I feel like he is starting to have feelings and I definitely have them. I also don't want to make something out of nothing.
I just really enjoy his company and don't want to stop hanging out, but is hanging out wrong?
Why do you want to put him in such an awkward and embarrassing position? But trust me, saying it out will not make either of you feel better. If you want to walk away, you can tell him that you’re into him and will now leave knowing that he’s not available.