Break up after dating 4 months dating mmos
I needed to learn these life lessons and she wanted a different type of guy in her life.
So in your situation, I would recommend the same thing: A frank, to-the-point conversation – it’s not working anymore, I don’t see it getting better, you’re great, but I want to break up.
Still, I had this overpowering feeling that if I didn’t keep the relationship together that it somehow meant I was a failure.
I began getting wrapped up in my own fears, worries and what it meant about me.
The truth is, that was the best way she could have possibly dumped me. And I lacked the perspective back then to see that regardless of what my ex was like during our relationship, it meant nothing about me or who I was as a person (although it may have meant something about my approach…) :) My point in all of this is that her breaking up with me was painful, but it lead me to learn some valuable lessons.
Dragging out the relationship any longer would have done neither of us any good.
It may seem nice to offer the possibility that one day in the future, you two will find your way back into each other’s arms, but this gives the poor fella false hope.
She said that I was a great guy, but she really didn’t see any saving the relationship. Now maybe you’re thinking that hooking up with the first girl I could find was a taking the low road, but the fact was that I felt so worthless, ineffective and unwanted that I guess I just needed to know that someone out there found me desirable. I lacked the confidence back then to know that how others respond to me is secondary to how I see myself.
And she said that she would love to be friends if that could be possible. I lacked the experience back then to realize that the relationship didn’t have anything I really valued to begin with.
If I had looked at the relationship itself clearly, I would have seen that it was a mediocre relationship that had some good moments at the beginning, but there was no future.
Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to be that honest with myself.